Parenting is often a difficult and full-time responsibility. It can be a rich and rewarding experience; at other times, it can seem the exact opposite!
And every child is unique and special in their own way. If a child is struggling with psychological issues and we consult a parenting book, the strategies we learn can sometimes seem to help that particular child (usually in the short-term) or not at all.
In other words, tools and strategies may help us manage the behaviour of some children but those aren’t always effective.
I see tools and techniques as quick fix solutions. There is nothing wrong with using something to help alleviate pain and suffering as long as those don’t cause any harm, physically or emotionally. But most of the time, as soon as one stops applying the technique(s), the same problems tend to re-emerge. Sometimes the initial problem may cease to be a issue but a new problem arises out of the blue. And, we then get busy trying to fix our new problem. This cycle can go on and on.
If we want to empower children and the youths of today to deal with challenges and support them to make healthy choices, learning about innate heath is key.
If you are a parent or you work with children, this understanding will help you make sense of why children do what they do and why focussing solely on disciplining or changing behaviours is not the answer. It will raise your awareness of how every human being experiences life using the power of thought. This understanding will point you to not only your own wisdom and innate resilience but also to the wisdom and innate resilience present in every child.
My dear friend and colleague, Ian Watson and I recorded a conversation about raising resilient kids. In the first video, we address why this understanding applies even to children with very challenging emotional and behavioural issues. We also talk about how this understanding is different to traditional approaches currently available.
In the second video below – we look at what can get in the way of us understanding about innate resilience. Ian talks about the work he and his team at the Innate Health Centre have been carrying out in schools and some of the outcomes observed so far.
Finally, we talk about why understanding what’s common to each of us can help reduce stigma and discrimination for those suffering from mental distress of any kind.
You can learn more about Ian Watson’s work at http://www.theinsightspace.com/