No one wants to have a bad day. And yet we can’t escape having one, from time to time. So if it’s our attitude that makes a difference and we want to have a good day, surely we need to work on our approach and think positive, right? Maybe we need to find a handful of useful tools and techniques and look at dealing with our negative attitude once and for all?

Well, there is no harm in trying, and you may see some results in the short term. However, no tool or technique will work all the time. It would also be tiring to stand guard at the door, so to speak, judging our attitude towards everything in our lives and fixing it so that we can experience a good day. Trying it that way to look at the brighter side of life can be hard, take up most of our energy and be of little use if any. We will get caught off guard at some point, and our attitude can take a beating. That doesn’t mean it’s our fault or anyone else’s or that we need to feel guilty about it.

It’s helpful to know that our attitude changes with our state of mind and vice-versa. Our state of mind changes throughout the day. If we are in a good state, our attitude tends to be a positive one. We enjoy being in a flow state, compassionate and loving; we are also great to be around. If we are in a low state of mind and feeling depressed, automatically our attitude becomes a negative one, and we have a bad day. We react and become snappy or moody, can make harsh comments about others and usually not great to be around.

It’s useful to remember that any state of mind is only temporary. Hence even our attitude is temporary. Some of us seem to have a more sustained negative or positive attitude. That depends on choices people make and what they choose to believe in at a core level.

We don’t have to try hard to change a bad day to a good day. If it happens effortlessly (or with relative ease) that’s great! We need to trust that the bad day is only temporary and that a good day is just around the corner.

States of mind will fluctuate depending on visible or invisible thoughts that may be playing in the back of our mind. We don’t need to work on those thoughts, analyse or change them to change our attitude. At some point, a natural shift indeed occurs. That happens when we don’t keep playing and replaying the same stale thoughts again and again. It’s as if by us not stressing to change our attitude or state of mind, we invite fresh thoughts to come in through the door. We then effortlessly bounce back to a better state of mind and a better attitude!

So yes, what makes a difference between a good day and a bad day seems to be our attitude or state of mind. But let’s make it okay to have a bad day too and not judge ourselves too harshly. When we do that, we would learn to empathise with and support others who may be going through a foul day.